Hey, visitors hope you all are doing great and as today is the last day of 2021 let’s reflect on the year and the lessons we learned and apply it to the new year. The most important lessons of the all time is that every action doesn’t require your reaction. Well, i know people’s behaviors, the way they speak rubbish about us and try to drag us down is not at all acceptable. But the fact is that it’s not us all the time who triggers them to behave ill with us. It’s their own insecurities, narcissism, jealousy, manipulativenss or traumas. We often find people venting their anger out on us with no reason or just targeting us so we would react and they would satisfy their ego.
Narcissism is unavoidable, these people will never say that they are wrong they will use harsh words and show how you are insecure and wrong and play the victim game all the time. In reality, they are projecting their insecurities on us and we get hurt . You may think no matter what you do for them they will always find a way to hurt you. You should know such behaviors and avoid this negative people at any cost. If it’s avoidable you should cut them off from your phone, stop meeting them and having any conversation with them. Because other people’s energy do affect our mental peace. They remove their frustration on us and eventually we do the same with others.
Sometimes these people are our closed ones or we have them in workplace which is unavoidable. They will try to trigger you for no damn reason. They will always find a way to show how you are wrong, talk behind your back. These negative people just wants a reaction from you so that , they can make you feel worse. What’s a thought without power , it’s nothing. If you give the thought the power to serve you it will do , if hurt you , it will do. Basically, we tend to give quick reactions so , we need to stay super calm if we don’t want these people affect us. As you know let them say, when they will not get a reaction from you they will stop at some time being. Try to mirror them their behavior, they might understand it’s them and how does it feel to get the taste of their own medicine.
Don’t let their opinions affect you. You know why they are behaving in such a way . Just say to them i don’t know what trauma made you behave in such a way but i hope you heal your wounds so that you don’t keep hurting others. When they say something mean , they want you to say something mean in return, so they can continue the fight and make you feel worse. If you don’t react to them at all they will just try and try and give up. Not every action needs a reaction. Their behavior is not in our control. But our reaction to it is. I am not saying to accept their toxic behavior, do what is right. But once you know their behavior that this person is a narcissistic, negative or of a victim mindset don’t let their actions affect you and stop reacting to them.
Then there comes the victim players. They will blame to anyone or anything for their own failures. They think things happen to them and the whole world is against them, trying to defeat them. They are kind of manipulative in some way. They will make you feel worse for even feeling a certain emotions. If something bad happen to you and you are crying they will say what’s the point in crying you did that so this happened. They will blame you for even weather changes😂p.s just kidding. Not for the weather change but for mood change of theirs. They didn’t do their work whole day because of being lazy and they will blame you that you kept texting them, calling them disturbing them and so did they didn’t finish it. Arguing with them is like telling a fish to climb a tree.
Understanding these behaviors will make your life peaceful ,as you know what their problem is . When someones behaviors is repetitively negative or victim , manipulative it’s a trauma. So, don’t feed their feelings by reacting to them and not every action needs a reaction. Practice meditation take a deep breathe when you encounter someone with these traits.
Thank you so much for reading. Wishing you a happy new year 🎉 😊 may your life be filled with abundance, love ,blessings, strength and happiness. Much love and healings to you ❤.